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Winning

April 23, 2012

If you missed the announcement on the Girly Muse Facebook page, this is for you:

Dun dun dun…and the grand prize of I Blame Eve by Susanna Foth Aughtmon goes to…MELISSA KIDWELL! Weehaw! If you’re not Melissa, you can purchase the book HERE. :)

How are you on this fine Monday morning? I must say, I am MUCH better than I was last week at this time. Although, if you saw me this morning, you’d probably think we were still going through the water difficulties and all sorts of other major trauma. I look haggard, y’all. I look like I’ve been through the ringer. I’m not altogether sure why my hair is on end and my eyes are so puffy. My dreams must have been something ELSE!

I assure you, I am just fine. My weekend was quite mellow and low-key…just what I like.

Nate and I had a little anniversary getaway Thursday night and we were surprised when the Hotel Sofitel gave us the PRESIDENTIAL SUITE. While I would never in a million years want to be President, I could sure get used to staying in such deluxe quarters. There were two huge rooms with gorgeous lighting, flowers, a cozy couch, two flat screen TVs, two fabulous bathrooms, all-you-can-dry towels, an UMBRELLA in the closet…obviously, when you’re the President, hotels think of everything.

This was also waiting for us in the room…

Delicious and so pretty…

It was such a treat, especially after the last few weeks…we felt beyond fortunate.

18 years…I cannot believe 18 years have gone by with my husband. And I’ve loved him a lot longer than that. Most of our married life has not been spent in presidential suites, but it has been full of surprises, extravagant blessings, love, pain, growth, trauma, renewal, passion, upheaval, laughter, sweetness, challenge, bliss and a whole slew of lessons just about every day that I could not begin to fill in this blog post. Marriage is not for the faint of heart. Today I can say that I’m grateful for every lesson learned and I’m ready for the next several decades with Nate Sabin.

Now, it’s back to all-you-can-wash laundry. Thank the good LORD again for water!!!

Posted in Adventure, April 2012, Books, Grateful Heart, Marriage, Nate | 4 Comments »

Sticky Pits, Stinky Pits, Dry Shampoo & Me

April 16, 2012

This post on Facebook got a few comments…

Always, ALWAYS shower on Saturday nights…because as sure as you don’t, the power will go off and on and off and on, the tub faucet won’t shut off EVER, so the water will have to be shut off and you’ll be stuck at church with soapy arms and pits, dirty hair and a foul-smelling mouth. Thank God for dry shampoo, hats and old water from a water bottle, is all I have to say. Well, actually, I have a lot more to say on the subject, but I’ll leave it at that.

Some wanted the “more to say on the subject” so here we go. It’s not too late to stop reading if you are of the faint of heart persuasion.

I woke up yesterday morning at 5:56 to the bright fan light abruptly turning on by itself. I got up and turned it off, realizing we must have been out of power for a while. Nate had already called the power company hours earlier and they came out, but there was a loud explosion in our street at one point, so it sounded like the power company was having some troubles.

If you have been reading this blog for any length of time or if you own a house yourself, you know that there are seasons when everything in your house either breaks, explodes or floods. Or is that really just us? Don’t answer that. We’ve been in one of those seasons for a LONG time now.

It is taxing and it drives me to eat.

But that’s a topic for another day.

Before I continue, I must also say I prefer this season to seasons of not getting along or seasons of sickness…

Anyhoo…season of house and the things in the house falling apart…that is what we’re in. And back to yesterday morning~ of course, it was a Sunday. It couldn’t be a scuzzy Saturday! That would just be too easy.

I was cuddling Indigo, playing Scramble with friends (my latest game addiction) on my phone and lazing way longer than I should, intellectually speaking. I know there are a million ways for a Sunday morning to go wrong and have written about a few of those ways on this wee ole blog.

Let me digress (again~ goodness, how many digressions am I gonna take on this single post?) to say that our Saturday WAS indeed a scuzzy one, complete with lazing around and the kids playing on their new RipStiks~ hello, new reason to get on my knees in prayer!

Knowing it might be the last truly beautiful warm day we would have for a while, I caved when the kids asked if they could wait to take their baths in the morning. They played until the last possible minute and even though they desperately needed cleaning up, once they sat down, they were so sore and tired, I just sent them to bed.

Big mistake. Never ever succumb to this temptation.

So, when Indigo and I did hop up yesterday, we knew we had to scramble. I ran his bath water and didn’t run much water because I planned to take a shower while he was in the bath. I would wake Greyley up after my shower so she could get hers. Lucky Smart Duck Nate had taken his shower earlier like the good man he is. And since he vowed to me on our wedding day, 18 years ago (that very day!), that he would shower every day, he was feeling extra keen on keeping that promise.

Normally, Nate would already be gone, but due to the power outage, he had already had his hands full and was running late too. I don’t know, he might have tried to take me down in Scramble too, but that’s neither here nor there. Thank GOD he was still there.

I leaned over the tub to turn Indie’s water off~ he was already in there, splashing away~ and the faucet for the cold water just kept turning and turning and not stopping. There was already so little water in there that Indigo was getting cold right away and I said, “Uh, Nate…this faucet isn’t turning off.”

He tried and realized it wasn’t going to stop.

I don’t know why I didn’t turn the hot water on at this point and fill up the tub. Next time, I will think of that. But instead, I dunked Indigo in the water as fast as I could and helped him rinse his hair out while his teeth started chattering. Nate went down to the basement to turn the water off, Indie lifted the plug out of habit and that’s when I realized I needed to leave for church in 30 minutes and still wasn’t clean. I jumped in the water puddle that was left and began sudsing up, not bothering to plug the little that was left. I should have…but I didn’t. Again, next time, I shall know better. I got good and soaped up as the last trickle of water went down the drain.

I guess it’s a blessing that I hadn’t started on my hair.

I jumped out of the empty tub and began drying off the soap. In case you’re wondering, dried soap on your armpits feels very sticky. Deodorant doesn’t help. When Nate turned the water back on for a minute, the water went nuts out of the faucet and we scrambled to keep it from flooding out of the top of the tub, but I did take that opportunity to also splash my pits. It helped immensely. I didn’t manage to get my arms too, for the pits were the main concern.

Thank the Lord for dry shampoo. I’ve already talked on here about how long I could probably go without washing my hair with the curls/frizz, but I’ve always been a little scared of testing that theory, except for when I’m sick. I don’t even want to know how long I can probably go. I just wash it every other day and leave it at that. But it was already past my comfort level, thanks to my slothfulness on scuzzy Saturday and so I spruced it up with the dry shampoo, did curly pony tails and can I just say that I got loads of compliments on my hair…ha! Fist pump high in the air! Curse you, you wretched faucet!

Around this time, we realized we were out of a bass player for the morning service and while Nate tried to pull the washer and dryer out (it’s on the other side of the wall to the bathtub), he was also trying to hunt down another bass player. Who says men can’t multitask?

Greyley stumbled in around this time and wondered why there was no water in her bathroom.

By now, we were scared to turn the water back on and were running very late, so Indigo and Greyley got plastic baggies and packed our toothbrushes and toothpaste and we hurried off to church. If you’re new to this blog~ my husband and I work for our church/the music department. I’m sure if we didn’t we would have skipped yesterday, if not to A) celebrate our anniversary, then B) to figure out this mess. But we do, so we went and had a good time. It was a nice reprieve. We also had a delicious lunch at Red Lobster, using a Christmas gift certificate (woohoo!) and then Nate surprised me with these lovelies…

Aren’t they beautiful? We were still in great spirits and maintaining our humor about the whole day. We enjoyed some ice cream and laughed at Indigo’s attempt to wipe all the chocolate ice cream off his chin. It just would not go away…where’s an almost empty water bottle when you need it???

And then we got home and tried to tackle the water situation again. Nate had called a plumber friend on our way home and he’d told him what he needed tool-wise, but suggested he continue looking for the shut-off valve for the bathtub. It was our friend’s Easter and so he was in the thick of celebrating. Nate finally got the washer and dryer out~ not an easy feat with where it’s located, how massive it is and the mostly wood/partly carpet situation underneath…only to find out that there IS no shut-off valve for the bathtub. It’s an older house. It’s not there.

This is all over a couple of hours of sweat, aggravation and more aggravation. I started getting snippy with the kids (and their blasted RipStiks~ WHY, for the love of all that is holy?) and tried to keep all of us as clean as possible because we had a church concert to go to in just 5 minutes. Again, we do the stinkin’ music at our church, so skipping was not an option at this point. (Yes, I realize I had a bad attitude. Pray for me.) We used leftover water from water bottles to brush our teeth and this time I wore a hat. Perfume was also in the mix. Someone even told me I smelled good and I had a good giggle inside, but just said, “Thank you” like my Mama would.

Nate dropped me off outside Cub grocery store to get snacks for the guest band performing at our church that night. I ran in alone since I’m the speedy quick one and I went through the self check-out lane because all the others were so long. I had scathing words with the electronic scanner for being such a nitwit and finally got out of there, breathing sighs of relief when we reached the church parking lot.

Once we had the refreshments all nicely laid out and greeted our guests and met the ones we didn’t know, my friend asked if I had any medicine for his headache. When I went to get my bag is the first time I realized I’d left my purse at Cub. In the self check-out lane. In a not-so-great part of town.

Nate rushed over to Cub. I fought the near hysteria that threatened to take over my addled brain. I called Cub, GOT SOMEONE (can you believe it!), she let me spill out my guts without giving anything away until I had said some key word (still not sure what that was), but FINALLY she said SHE HAD IT. Oh, thank GOD. I went weak in the knees and tried to stop the sweat that threatened to take over since I didn’t know how long I’d be stuck with it.

The concert was excellent~ Jonathan Thulin and Charmaine. Watch for their single to come out soon, “Dead Come to Life.” They’re insanely good together.

It was 10:30 before we got home. We didn’t even attempt to do anything but use the bottled water we’d brought home…it would have to wait until tomorrow.

We collapsed into bed and fell asleep watching youtube videos on plumbing.

The saga continues today. I can’t even begin on that or I’ll never get this post finished, but I will tell you that after pony tails and then a hat, the hair is not faring too well, my friends…not well at all.

 

Posted in April 2012, Confession is Good for the Soul, House, Marriage, Miracles, Touchy Subjects | 14 Comments »

Taxes Stink, Let’s Have an Anniversary Instead!

April 15, 2011

Today is my 17th wedding anniversary. 17 years! Can you believe it?

Happy Anniversary, Nathan Orville!

My poor husband is still so sick. We had big plans to go spend the night in a fancy hotel~ The Grand Hotel in Minneapolis. However, our getaway has been postponed until he’s feeling better. I don’t know if I’ve ever seen him so sick. Thankfully, he’s on antibiotics now and hopefully will be smiling again SOON.

But back to 17 years…that’s getting downright long! It doesn’t seem possible.

Highlights of my married life:

Our many travels together.

Fun places we’ve stayed~ some great B&B’s, a few not-so-great motels here and there, along with many fabulous hotels thrown in the mix.

Eating a LOT of delicious food~ there have been so many memorable suppers…I love eating with someone who loves good food.

Spooning. Period.

Those times (pre-children) when we were footloose and fancy-free and could take off at the drop of the hat, whether it was to the movies or an overnight trip.

Playing music together, especially when it’s really working.

Every time I’ve told him I’m pregnant, including every April Fool’s Day. (22 times, give or take 1 or 2)

Welcoming our children into the world.

Every time I hear him tell our kids how much he loves them.

The times when he looks at me and I know what he’s thinking and it’s sweet.

Our inside jokes.

When we saw “Phantom of the Opera” and came out singing at the top of our lungs…he will still come right in with me if I begin, “All I Ask Of You.”

The Christmas he put a tiny ring box inside the tree and inside the box was a note promising that ONE day I’d get this one ring I’d seen that I loved…and then opening another wrapped box inside another wrapped box inside another wrapped box…and there was the ring.

When we drove to Alexandria and ate all our favorite foods that we’d missed so much…and saw some of our favorite people…that we’d missed almost as much as the food.

Every first night in a new house…there have been three new (for us) houses…every first night is full of adventure and excitement at the new beginning.

When we sat in Barnes & Noble and pored it all out and recommitted to do whatever it took…

Last week when we were sick together…nothing is quite as bonding as that.

Every time I can get him to laugh until he’s rubbing his eyes…that’s the good life right there.

When we’re both happy and healthy and sane at the same time.

The time he was in a lot of pain and the doctor put him on heavy meds~ oh the joy! and the love! and the happy! feelings that came out with that. Good times. Except for the pain part.

When we put the kids to bed, watch a great movie, snuggle and snack…and maybe kiss a little.

While we’re on the subject of kissing…any kissing episode has been a highlight. He is the best kisser EVER. I have studied this theory, I am afraid, and know this to be true. You gotta kiss a lotta frogs to find the prince. Not really, but well, I’ll quit while I’m ahead.

The days when we always had a Monday Funday.

The glorious trip to Hawaii~perfection.

Waking up and realizing it’s not quite time to get up yet.

Holding hands.

Experiencing the pastries at Hotel Sofitel.

Sunning in Mexico, although the sunburn was NOT a highlight.

Sleeping on the futon in the 3rd Street house.

When he helped me turn over at night during my pregnancies. Bless him for that.

The Road to Hana.

Sugar Loaf.

When we brought our puppy, Alex, home that first night.

All the studio fun, songs that have turned into something really special, sitting at the piano together, Sunday mornings, live recordings, flutes…

Every time we’ve laughed and some of the times we’ve cried.

Nights when neither of us snore. What? We don’t snore…

When we realize again why we are meant to be together.

 

 

Posted in April 2011, Grateful Heart, Heartwarming Events, Marriage, Nate | 20 Comments »

My Dad’s Thoughts On Marriage

July 9, 2010

My mom wrote a wonderful post on Marriage. If you missed it, you can still read it HERE. She certainly qualifies as an expert, in my opinion~ my parents just celebrated their 40th Anniversary on June 26th and are as happy together as ever. Today my dad gives his thoughts on the subject. Can you tell they’re wonderful teachers? They teach the adult Sunday School class together at their church in N. Little Rock, AR.

People get married for different reasons. Many times, people go into a marriage with the idea that they will fix the shortcomings, lacking parts, faults, in their spouse…

IT DOESN”T WORK THAT WAY.

Why did you get married in the first place?

I know why I did and why I still am…

I remember the first time I saw the girl who is now a woman and my wife.  I was nine and it was at a youth rally, if you know what that is…she had on this really full skirt and her hair was in a ponytail.  She was the prettiest girl I had ever seen and still is….

One of the things I often think about is that after being married to my wife for 40 years, there is no one I would rather spend time with, not during our whole time together.  I never feel the need or desire to be away from her.  That is not to say I haven’t been away.  I fish and I go fishing sometimes~ I always ask her if she would like to go.  We used to fish some together, although I don’t believe she was ever as fond of it as I am.

God Created Man, then Woman…

She was to be flesh of his flesh and bone of his bone. He created her from the side of Adam. Not from the head so she could dominate him and not from the feet so he could walk all over her. From his side, because she was to be a helper to him…

My wife has done more and given all to be a helper to me.

God said He would give Adam a help meet. Or, in other words, one to complete him. So God took from Adam and made him complete with a mate. Adam said, “This is flesh of my flesh and bone of my bone.”

Gen 2:21-25  And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This [is] now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

God and Adam were talking one day in the cool of the day and God was describing Woman to Adam.  Someone who was beautiful, could prepare meals with him, help him around the Garden, help him with all the animals, and God’s list went on and on…

Finally Adam said to God, “Wow, someone like that would cost me an arm and a leg…what do you think I could get for a rib?”

With all the things my wife does for me and with me, if I were having to give up body parts in the bargain, there would be nothing left of me.  She is really the BEST THING that ever happened to me.  Of course, here I will have to interject that I believe we both put God first in our lives, but you understand what I am saying.

There are lists of things that make a good marriage and there is a difference in falling in love and being in love and staying in love…although for me, I don’t know how a person could fall out of love if they were truly in love.  I knew from the first time I saw her that I wanted to spend all the time I could with her.  We became friends and stayed friends and a lot of water ran under many bridges before I was able to convince her that I was in love with her.

Now about some of these lists, here are a few things:

One is to remember that you don’t always have to be right.

Always respect the other person’s feelings.

Take responsibility for your own mental wellbeing. Don’t blame the other party if you feel worthless.

Share your feelings: “I feel hurt when…” “I am afraid when…” “I think you are saying I’m worthless when you say…

Be ready to talk.

Be ready to listen.

Allow your spouse to be a different person from you, with different attitudes and solutions.

Be ready to sacrifice some of your own personal pleasures and desires for the good of the marriage.

Accept that there are differences between the sexes and try to understand them.

Respect each other.

Recognize that there will be stressful times, and rise to the challenge of managing those times. Understand your needs and your partner’s needs. Understand the marriage’s needs. Then negotiate compromises that take care of both of you and the marriage.

Accept the changes that come with children, including loss of sleep, loss of privacy, and loss of time for each other.

Despite children and work, save a time for each other,

Be flexible. You may have to change your opinions or your lifestyle in response to changing needs of your spouse, or to changes in the world around you.

Be physically affectionate. Hug and touch.

Be faithful. Not only as commonly thought of as in an affair, but in thought, attitude and actions.

Share fun, interests, and friends.

Have a lively sense of humor.

Nurture and support each other.

Care for each other and for the marriage.

Forget whether you’re right or wrong. The question is: Is what you’re doing working or not working?

You don’t fix things by fixing your partner.

Intimacy is so important because it is when we let someone else enter our private world.

Communicate. Make sure your sentences have verbs. Remember that only 7 percent of communication is verbal. Actions and non-verbal communication speak much louder.

And on that note, Kay can read me like a book. A look, the set of my mouth…she knows what I am thinking and believe it or not a lot of the time, she can read my mind.

Now as a side note, Children…remember THEY WILL LEAVE YOU.  As much as you love them and care for them and that will never change, you are the parent and will always be even when they are gone. You will again be just two.

We like to talk about how the first miracle Jesus performed was at a marriage.  That makes some believe that He thought highly of where he was and what he was doing.  He made better wine than what they had been drinking.  I find it really thought provoking that Jesus compares Himself as the bridegroom and the church as the bride.  To me, hold on to that thought, it should inspire anyone who is married to want their marriage and relationship with each other to be the best it can possibly be…

Posted in July 2010, Marriage, Uncategorized | 9 Comments »

After 40 Years…

July 7, 2010

I wrote about my parents celebrating their 40th Anniversary on June 26th and one of my friends, Michelle, asked if they’d write a post about marriage. I thought that was a wonderful idea. They both have great things to say on the subject. Today we will start with what my Mama has to say…

Marriage

A man and woman had been married for more than 60 years.

They had shared everything.

They had talked about everything.

They had kept no secrets from each other, except that the little old lady had a shoebox in the top of her closet that she had cautioned her husband never to open or ask her about…

For all these years, he had never thought about the box, but one day the little old lady got very sick and the Doctor said she would not recover…

In trying to sort out their affairs, the little old man took down the shoebox and took it to his wife’s bedside…

She agreed that it was time that he should know what was in the box.

When he opened it, he found 2 crocheted dolls and a stack of money, totaling $25,000…

He asked her about it…

“When we were to be married,” she said, “My grandmother told me the secret to a happy marriage was to never argue.”

She told me, “If I ever got angry with you, I should just keep quiet and crochet a doll.”

The little old man was so moved, he had to fight back tears…

Only 2 precious dolls were in the box …

She had only been angry with him 2 times in all the years of living and loving…

He almost burst with happiness…

“Honey,” he said, “That explains the dolls, but what about all this money?”

“Oh…” she said. “That’s the money I made selling the dolls.”


David and I don’t really know much about arguing and only a little about disagreeing. We’ve had maybe a few “spirited” discussions…

We think a lot alike, for one thing…

And as boring as that may sound, we’re not bored…

We actually laugh quite a bit at our house and just enjoy being together…

Marriage is a union, you want it to be harmonious…

I suppose it does happen though, where couples argue and disagree.

And maybe that works for you…It could be really important to you to get it out there, but in doing that, you can’t usually take it back.

It’s out there………

I would say it paid off for the little old lady just to keep quiet about it, though….

To build a good marriage, we may have to do certain things and not do certain things…

And it does no good to even identify a problem, if we aren’t willing to do anything about it, to fix it or change it….

I’m assuming that you fell in love and got married.

We all need a bottom-line in our lives.

A foundation we can come back to…

The bottom-line is that we love each other…

There is no one else we love more, except the Lord.

And of course God is our foundation. We base everything on that.

No matter what is going on in our life, we have the confidence to know that God is not surprised by it and He will not abandon us…

He is with us and He wants us to have a good marriage…

In our day-to-day living, the same as in our relationship with the Lord, do what you know you can do to make it better each day…

You know how you want to please the Lord…

At least try to do that for each other. You know what pleases your spouse in the everyday things…

And don’t feel like a failure if something you try didn’t work…

Thomas Edison had done 7,000 experiments when he was asked if he was discouraged with his failures and he said, “Oh no, I haven’t had any failures. I now know 7,000 things that won’t work.”

So learn from the mistakes and try again.

Most everything you try will work, I think, if you really listen to each other.

Really hear each other…Be present…pay attention, in other words…

I’m going to give you 10 things that I think will work…..

(But, I’m not an expert. )

I think respect would be number one…

It’s interesting that:

God requires the husband to “love” his wife, but the wife is required to “respect “ her husband… Eph. 5:33…..

And if you don’t have respect, you really need to pray about that because there can be serious consequences…

It shuts the door to the good things that should be in your marriage.

…………Creates a wall………

And I believe the most important “good” you can do for your spouse is to pray for each other.

So….

1. Respect  (If you don’t still have respect, you may not be able to do the next one…)

2. Love (I hope you love each other…)

3. Pray (Prayer of course is at the top of every list, but I put it at #3 here to make a point… If you don’t have “respect” or “love,” your prayers maybe would change that…)

4. Be affectionate (Don’t be afraid to be affectionate, it’s a good thing. It’s also a good thing for your children to see…Our daughter has let it be known just recently, that she appreciates that…)

5. Compliment each other (Giving and receiving a compliment from your spouse will not only make you feel like you’re special to them,  but I think it helps you have the confidence to express your thoughts to each other…)

6. Don’t take your marriage for granted, no matter how great it may be…be thankful for it and ask God to bless and preserve it.

7. Be loyal  (That doesn’t just mean no flirting or being faithful~ it means that too~ but it also means to build each other up and not put each other down.)  Just being loyal to each other…Trust is so very important, but if you’re loyal to each other, the trust will be there.

8. Let go of expectations (If you don’t, it could bring many disappointments…)

9. Create a home  (Even if it’s a small apartment, with second-hand furniture from a garage sale, make it attractive, warm and welcoming. Ourselves, also, as best we can…)

10. Try to leave the door closed on the past…..Try…..I have a horribly, good memory… (But that’s one good thing about getting older, we are forgetting things, and some things may be better, forgotten….)

Starting right now, with God’s help, make the rest of your life the best of your life, in your relationship with God and with each other…

If you want it to be better, it’s not too late…..

And I wrote this quote down quite a few years ago, by Pres. Ronald Reagan. He said, “I know I am blessed. I’m especially blessed, because I know I’m blessed.”

That’s how I feel about God and my marriage… I hope you do, if not, I think you can start today to make it better…

We just celebrated our 40th wedding anniversary and I can honestly say, we still enjoy our time together more than anything else in our life. We still are so in love and my husband tells me almost daily that he wishes he would have declared his love for me even sooner…

(Says he fell in love with me when he was nine years old…told me about it when he was 18…)

We were friends for years first, then love…

Our story is on Lori’s blog….

Always put God first, then your spouse, then your children…in that order. Your spouse will hopefully be there after your children have moved on…

There is not enough time left in this world for us to continue to enjoy our marriage, but we are making the most of every opportunity to live our life with love for each other. There is no greater gift that you can give each other and your children…

Life takes over at times, but you really don’t have to work at love, it shouldn’t be hard work, at least. We have had to make sure our feelings are heard sometimes because of life issues that come, but it is not hard to talk about and work on. You just meet life things head on and your love will conquer…

I think it all starts with being kind and mannerly to each other, going back to “respect.” Having respect will take care of a lot of issues…

If we each will prefer the other and their feelings, that’s what creates harmony…can’t be one-sided…

Have faith and trust in God and each other…

Anything else that happens, will come back to that Center…That Foundation…


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